EFT for the Highly Sensitive Temperament (EFT: Emotional Freedom Techniques) by Rue Anne Hass

Author:Rue Anne Hass [Hass, Rue Anne]
Language: eng
Format: mobi
Tags: Psychology
ISBN: 9781604150476
Publisher: Cumberland House Publishing
Published: 2009-09-01T04:00:00+00:00

9

I Have to

Tough It Out

I have heard various versions of the phrase “I have to tough it out” from countless sensitive clients. HSTs are so good at being the strong one, the competent one, the dependable and reliable one. We have had to learn how to do that because, in the past, it may not have been possible or safe to express what we were actually feeling. Or maybe being the “go to” person seemed like the only way to get some approval. HSTs try so hard.

So many sensitive people have just learned to swallow what is inside us, stuffing down the words, the tears, and maybe even the joy and excitement. It was all too much. We locked away inside of us our true desires for what we wanted. We taught ourselves not to want. We taught ourselves to think that what we wanted was what they wanted us to want. This left us stuck in a gray world of “should” and “have to” and “better not” and “I am all alone here.” We thought we had no choices.

Here are some stories from people who grew up learning how to “tough it out.” A Freudian Slip: “I Love and Except Myself ” (The following is from an e-mail from Celia, whom you met in chapter 7.) “Dear Rue, I am remembering parts of our phone session, especially trying to learn to say thank you if someone compliments me, instead of cringing in cynical disbelief. Also, the conclusion that I need to tap (probably a lot and for some time persistently) on disconnecting my presentday reactions from those instilled in me by my mother’s very negative input and those instilled in me by abusive men who used violence to frighten me into obedience (a continuation of how I was treated as a very young child).

“I want to learn to grow my stronger side and learn to disconnect from the part of me that is so easily frightened and cowed into a subservient, submissive posture. I have to honor that sensitive little girl who was unable to stand up to the dominance and beatings of my baby self, and honor the sensitive adult woman who also caved in under threats, physical violence, and enormous fear. I have felt weak and ashamed for so many years—it’s hard to make the shift to positive and proud.

“The best shift that happened while I was talking to you came when we were tapping and you were able to coax me to say out loud, ‘I am of value’ and then even ‘I am of great value!’ I was surprised by how sure of that I was—the sureness came from deep inside—and I am certain that it is a result of the EFT work I have done over the last few months, especially gently rubbing over my heart and saying, ‘I deeply and completely love and except myself.’ What a gift this is. I can feel God teaching us all about love. How lucky we are.

“Do

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